About

I started this blog because:

A. I felt an urge to encourage and inspire Dads to help their wives more, and

B. I struggled with letting go of my past childless life.

On point A:

Like every parent, we thoroughly analyzed how our own parents did things. We quickly saw a pattern – that many Dads, both now and then, kinda slip into breadwinner mode and let Moms do way more childcare, cooking, and cleaning. We somehow avoided that trap, and because of that, have maintained a healthy marriage. Our kid also doesn’t lean too heavily on either of us, but rather both.

So my goal is to share as much knowledge and experience on here in an effort to prove why establishing an equal parenting partnership benefits everyone.

On point B:

Becoming a parent is the most difficult transformation I’ve ever endured. Parenting fills up most of your time, and it’s a real gut punch to get used to. Like most transitions, you gotta go through the pain portal in order to level up. My friend Ryan explains the parenting transformation well:

Forget whoever you were before having a child. He’s gone forever. Once your child grinds you down to a granular nub, then you can rebuild who you are.

The faster you come to terms with that truth, the closer you get to feeling (sort of) whole again (in a new way). Once I embraced who I was becoming instead of holding onto who I was, life started to feel “normal.”

Welcome!

Writing these posts is both cathartic for me and educational for others. Thanks for stopping by and don’t be shy! Would love to hear your comments and perspectives. There are many ways to get this parenting thing right ✌🏻